Passions, purpose, desire, and loneliness; are all elements of the behaviors exhibited between male and female adults.
Examination of these details, presents us with an explosive mix/ that either ascends from personal selfishness into the expressions of value and love for other people. Or descends from participation established within respect/ to the places where hate, revenge, violence, sadness, suicide, and insanities occur.
Passion is the exhibition of an inner expression, that is experienced when the foundations which control the fabric of our decisions, is allowed to be freed. A passion is: the critical step between living a life “about just me”/ and accepting the duties which align with this is important to us all, or at least more than just me. Passion verifies “more than one life, exists” for me. Passion is a necessity, in romance, love, and family. It comes without a price, to any other but me. It is the evidence of: duty will be achieved.
Purpose is the demand, that I must achieve my goal/ regardless of the price I cause to another, or the way in which I travel toward my fate. Therefore purpose is either “alive or dead” at its essence: because it drives those who accept it, into their destiny or fate. A purpose is a critical decision, it is a demand, my life MUST succeed at this one thing: or there will be consequences such as “being lost/ jealousy/ failure/ potential insanity, as is addiction; and a wide range of similar realities”. Unless “their purpose” fits your life; those who are truly defined by their decision/ cannot surrender it, until it meets its conclusion. Consequently, although like me, “many are worthy human beings fighting for life”/ there is no real room for anyone who does not accept the price of this life, for me/ therefore “for us”: is literally this goal. There are also many more whose goal is greed, power, lust, etc; and they are not worthy of your time, unless that is what you wish for your future as well.
Desire represents, “the questions within your heart”! The reality of love or hate, which constructs the future by your own design. Desire establishes the crossroads of life: by confronting you again and again, until your decision is clear. Either you do choose and accept, the foundations which present us with love/ OR you do choose and accept the realities of behavior, the consequences and fate, that hate will bring; even though these are wrapped in lies. Your choice is not. Desire decides the direction of your soul/ which does mean, “toward all that is good and life affirming”/ OR, all that is not, relying on selfishness to be your god.
Loneliness opens the door: “I am NOT enough for me/ I must have MORE”! Therefrom, the elemental rise from existence: the recognition that I am alive, which is enough. Into the critical passage beyond myself, as is the existence and intention called love. Describes the values we expand from simply being alive, into the doors which elevate our experience with time. Every door is a decision/ but every door is not a truth. The difference is, life in time can hold many realities/ but life itself, as the existence of “creation itself”; can only survive truth. Therein thought elevates loneliness, into creation as the values of being alive are searched to become the essence of self/ instead of time. In contrast to that ascension; are the many realities governing time itself/ as that is our situation on this earth, and we must not entirely avoid it. Life separated from the rest of life, as if it were not worthy or respected by the others: limits and denies the opportunities of love. Therefore the passage of time becomes haunted with all that is not living “with me”. Or more simply: loneliness appears, because only the image of love is available, “a ghosting” of what is real/ rather than life itself. People cause that, with judgment/ disrespect/ the failure of many things; that are necessary to avoid and remove hate. Hate acts upon loneliness, “like a parasite”/ moving just under the skin: until you recognize the garbage which let it in. Or more simply: hate is removed, and peace will enter, only if you remove the things which are not love. Life is about three distinct things in time: either you choose love/ or you choose hate/ or what you are required to do, is about survival. One of these three things decides every change, or step, in the direction of your life. Those who disagree, and describe themselves with want: are forming that decision with lies and images of what they expect their journey to become. Rather than what it is: a life in time, like all others/ dependent upon what you do in fact, choose. Lies only complicate and remove respect. Without respect, there is NO relationship with another life. Do remember that! It is true of the spiritual world as well.
Dating is governed by little things, believe it or not. Primary motivation is the difference between male and female/ or “I find you sexy”: because you are not physically, like me. The more that is visible, the more sexy you become. Therefore it is the differences between male and female, that arises as the key to making someone notice me. Second on the list of mandatory elements that must be achieved is: contrary to being a child, “pretending to be like me” is not enough. To be within my development of adult friendship, increasing the possibility of my critical decision to invest in you “time and effort”. You must actually be like me, or honestly willing to accept the life I do live, changing yours, or I changing mine to become a journey together as one. Liars are NOT welcome, because nothing is fair in war/ and only the things and realities which are true; are fair in love. None can build trust, without truth. Every lie destroys the bond which is trust, between you. Therefore choose: either build a life together/ or destroy that bond with lies; you cannot have both.
The third reality of life that intervenes and determines the future of any relationship/ of every romantic gesture: “is can I afford your happiness”? Or more simply: is the summation of your life, coupled to mine: going to cost me all or most of my life? When it is easy to believe, that I can make you happy: then it is also easy to get to know you, which is the beginning of every long term relationship. Within that price of a relationship is the reality of “ARE you happy”/ or can I fix, am I willing to pay; for this problem you have? The less you cost me, the more likely it is, I will find you desirable and spend my time, life, and money with you. Everything you need/ everything I need: is a cost which we bring to each other. Therefore it is substantively true, that everybody searches “for the best deal”. That “shopping”, is functionally conceived by: these three fundamentals.
1. What will you do for me/ what must I do for you: will we choose together?
2. What is the life that you lead in real physical “this is how it is” living? And, can you do more, or will you let me choose a life, for myself?
3. What are the disciplines of your heart? Can you control yourself, for the greater good, of you or me or us? Because if “this matters to me”/ the day will come, when it is an issue between our lives. Those who are very active/ will find an error in those who become truly complacent. Everyone has a right to live as they please, so long as they don’t hurt someone else intentionally. But that does not mean, I wish to participate in a life, that I do not wish to live for myself. I have rights too!
The critical issue of love is: what do I have to share/ what am I willing to receive! That translates into, “what are the blessings I have achieved within me”; and where is my own heart, when I know that the value of your life has an equal meaning with mine? Or more simply: you cannot share, what you have not gathered within yourself as a value worth existence. These are simple realities, that begin with every single life on this planet is a miracle: beyond all description of money, or the alternate values of men/ WE ARE ALIVE, and nothing has more value than that. Therefore the question of sharing is: DO YOU understand these words? If you do/ then the best blessing of your life is an appreciation conceived by respect, for all life itself. Demonstrated by your own actions/ held with honor, by your own love established in caring, sharing, and the freedoms which become our expression of time. It is within these moments, that people choose a mate; “for love and life”. Or more simply: many wait for proof of reality, before they commit. Responsibility sometimes requires, “a time apart, for becoming critically aware”/ of the life you truly desire, and the price you ARE willing to pay. Love is not a price, and never will be. However time and living require a payment, and it is not free. You marry these too, along with families, and the relationship you have, or will have, with reality.
The critical issue of time is: “NO moment, justifies a decision that establishes a lifetime”. Or more simply, people cannot be judged on tiny snippets of behavior/ dress/ or other. It is not valid, unless violence is truly in evidence: as hate identified. Hate can be judged. Love cannot. Rather love is an evidence of discipline, that allows order to conceive of a balanced acceptance, with all purposes guiding toward a respect that elevates everyone; “as best we can”. There are no non-violent behaviors that do not include someone else, which are to be judged. Life is a barrier in time, created to illuminate: what is, or is not to be valued! Therefore every action or reaction is a decision to consider the consequences and learn from the mistakes. Even if they are somewhat absurd. The element called WHY, subjugates us all to an investigation of reality itself. I, for myself; have walked at “the extreme edge”/ many times. Preparations are necessary. Realities of “a rise or fall”; create knowledge. Returning “to your expectations”, is slightly complicated; or more correctly, “requires a price”. Many search/ many fall; not all rise again. It is not for you to judge them or anyone else: only hate can be judged, by law. Everything else does become a functional freedom; some of which can and must be restricted to “somewhere else”.
The distance between dating and love, is as simple as WHY? You must answer that question for yourself; because it is a valid description of what “this future” is going to be. If you want: “the foundation of every lie”/ then you have expectations that must be met, or you won’t be happy. Even so, want is an abyss: it never ends, unless you yourself ends it in you. So the question of your future is dependent upon what you both WANT. The decision of pride requires: somebody has to lose/ before someone else can win! Be careful who you choose, because as time goes on, where want controls, life becomes a game. Pride will make you the loser/ or the winner: use/ abuse/ jealousy/ and more arises from here.
Many who get married want a child: period/ make this happen, and then go away. Because now I got what I wanted. That is functionally unfair, and deprives each other of the opportunities to share the experience of a relationship when it happens to early. The same is true of refusing each other a child: if you wait too long, or refuse the open wound of a person who deeply wants a child. They won’t forgive you. The only question is, will they remain in love with you? One child is enough/ unless they die. Because this world is full! This is a critical question for every relationship, and it must be dealt with honestly. Or more simply: do NOT lie/ cheat/ steal/ or entrap. If you do not desire a child, refusing at every opportunity/ and your lover does: then find someone else, who will accept your need. It will become a constant sore, if you don’t. People do change their mind/ but that is not for you to say. People do, “in particular men”: who want a woman with child, WILL many times try to make that child “worth something to them”. In other words, even if your married/ even if its their child too: they want some kind of payment from “your child”/ for their tolerance. That decision can become a failure, such as using the child for sex.
The foundations of marriage are simple ones: we agree there will be a financial cost/ for any reality of separation. It is a legal decision/ not a religious one.
The critical reality of understanding “you are both making an oath to accept each other, to respect each other, and to love each other as best you can” before GOD . Is a decision that cannot be undone. Rather if separation is required, then both bear an equal responsibility for the damage done. This is “your act”/ not “GOD’S decision: your decision, asking for a lifetime. That cannot be created unless both are true to their words. Only truth survives.